The Double P Syndrome

July 30, 2008 at 8:12 am Leave a comment

Double P Syndrome – by Lauren Kennedy

Do you suffer from the Double P Syndrome? Both syndromes often go hand in hand. Some people have trouble with one and not the other. Or sometimes they are aware of one and not the other. But either one can cause frustration and prevent you from moving forward with your goals.

Have you guessed what they are?

Perfectionism and Procrastination.

Are you experiencing the symptoms of either one? Or both? Do you want a solution?

Perfectionism can affect several areas of your life. First there’s emotional perfectionism. That ‘s when we believe that we must always be in control of our emotions. We only can have positive emotions, we must deny or dismiss negative feelings and avoid any situation or challenge that we suspect will elicit one of those dreaded negative emotions.

There is also performance perfectionism. The symptoms of this form of perfectionism are two fold. You avoid participating in any activity, project or situation in which you fear your performance may not be stellar. And if you do decide to pursue an endeavor, you anguish over every detail, from every possible perspective to ensure that every aspect is above reproach.

And finally there is moral perfectionism. The issue here is that you resolve to be without fault according to everyone’s moral code. Now that’s quite a feat, considering that moral codes can vary greatly and include a variety of rules, expectations and interpretations.

Procrastinatiion

There are three strains of procrastination that could affect you. The first becomes ingrained due to our experiences. Perhaps in the past, someone else has come to our rescue time and again, when we have been dragging our feet or avoiding responsibility. We are now still under the impression that someone else will take on the tedious tasks for us or bail us out of our messes.  We haven’t realized that even if we are skilled at getting others to do the grunt work, there is no free lunch. Some of the repercussion are feeling obligated, guilty, or lacking a sense of self efficacy. And people may talk about you behind your back.

Sometimes procrastination is a signal that the direction in which we are headed needs adjustment. Is our goal really what we want or is it something that we are doing to satisfy someone else. Maybe we think we “should” do it, that we are expected to do it, but  its not what we want to do nor do we believe in it.  In these situations, procrastination is an early warning sign. “Change direction or you  will develop a more serious syndrome in the future.”  We can pretend we did not see the sign, but that won’t prevent increased venerability to a future attack from another type syndrome. And some are very resistant to cures.

The third strain of procrastination originates from fear. Fear that we will not be Perfect. The cure for this form of procrastination is of course, finding an antidote for Perfectionism.

Now I can list many negative effects of Perfectionism. Here are just a few of them: it causes immobilization, it causes stress and anxiety, you are setting yourself up for failure, every task will require more of your time and energy, and you can’t please everyone. But here’s the most important one. It’s impossible.

However,  the truth is that people are seldom able to change a habitual behavior just because they discover that it is not in their best interests. The behavior has become the only way they know how to cope. They are using it to fill a basic need or they are using it to avoid the fear or the pain of something real, imagined or remembered. Some possible examples may be fear of criticism, fear of shame or fear of failure. These examples often have their genesis in the issues of  judgment, expectation and self worth.

Perfectionism can keep us stuck and safe from having to make decisions, from being responsible, from acknowledging consequences. Here’s a valuable insight. The cure does require the decision to relinquish self righteousness and join the imperfect human race.

Perfectionism, although sometimes mistaken for a positive trait, is an obstacle to progress, growth, goals and self worth. The pursuit of excellence is the road to success. But the path of perfectionism immobilizes you in the quicksand of fear.

But it is not a fatal condition nor does it have to be a chronic one. You just need the knowledge and desire to apply life affirming behaviors and choices to overcome the destructive syndrome of perfectionism.

Are you are ready to step into the freedom of possibilities, and leave the crutch of perfectionism behind?

You can always put it off for a decade or two. But be ware. That could be a indication that  the Procrastination syndrome spreading.

If you are ready for some additional information, email me or call for a free 30 minute session.

We have a cure for the double P syndrome.

To Your Authentic Life,

Lauren Kennedy

blog(at)insitetoexcellence.net
Phone: 513-889-1870

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