The Cheese Stands Alone

September 21, 2008 at 4:52 am Leave a comment

Will Your Payoff Be Ripe or Rotten? – Lauren Kennedy –

What are your goals?

Not the goals that you grudgingly set because you think you should. And not the ones that you give lip service to setting in order to get someone off your back.

What are the goals or dreams that you have a burning desire to achieve?  What stirs your passion and ignites your enthusiasm? Have you given up on your dreams because they seem implausible. Have you resigned yourself to your status quo because your record at goal achievement has been less than stellar?

Perhaps it isn’t the goal that must change or forsake but the way we have been taught to to achieve it.

Does this look familiar?

We have  a desire for a particular achievement or acquisition. We do some research and repeatedly hear about the importance of setting specific goals.

So we write down our goal in specific, Technicolor detail. We develop a list options, obstacles and pre-requisites. We detail a step by step plan of action. We resolve to be disciplined, positive, determined and focused. Our priorities are clear. We allow nothing to divert our attention from our vision. Nothing will come between us and the outcome we deserve. This time we will succeed. Mission accomplished. Done deal. Satisfaction guaranteed.

So we struggle to get to our destination. We become irritable when our schedule is interrupted. Obstacles are eliminated expediently. We are completely engrossed in reaching our destination. Our absolute absorption in our success comes before our personal relationships. The time and space in between are endured in anticipation of the end payoff.

If we run out of steam, confidence or passion, we give up. We beat ourselves up, blame ourselves, others, or circumstances, tell ourselves it wasn’t that important and endure the life we have.
Or, if we reach our goals, we pat ourselves on the back, revel in the adoration of others, and quickly set a loftier goal to absorb our attention and quiet the new rising craving inside.

Reaching a Goal Does not Guarantee Satisfaction
Our passions, our desires, our purpose and our actions are the tools we use to create our life experience. If we believe our satisfaction depends solely on realizing a goal, we have missed the point. Lasting pleasure and satisfaction can only be found  when we focus on what we are doing and who we are being, instead of just the outcome. Our awareness must be on the moment we are experiencing. Our focus must be on the quality of the decisions we make on the journey. Our priority must be focused on the response we choose in each situation.

It Is Experiencing and Learning from the Journey That Changes Our Lives

When we develop this perspective, interruptions will become opportunities and obstacles will provide information, direction and experience. We don’t become so obsessed with achieving our goal that we begin to compromise our values, neglect our relationships discount our feelings, needs and principles or rationalize that the ends justify the means. We must begin to take pleasure in the journey rather than enduring it to get the payoff .
After all, life doesn’t consist of just  the few moments in time when we feel the rush of reaching our goals. Life is in the journey. It is the journey and how we make it that is important. It is who we become and the direction in which we are headed that are the aspects that create a successful, fulfilling life.

Our desires are the stimulus that move us in the direction that can provide the experiences necessary for us to develop, to gain something we lack, to heal some open wound, to resolve some repressed issue, to instill understanding and compassion, to dissolve our fears,  to express our true essence  and to fulfill our purpose. Our passions are the fuel that moves us in the direction that will benefit our evolving spirit.

If the Achieving the Goal Becomes More Important than Than Our Choices, Satisfaction Eludes Us

But we cannot reach our potential when the goal becomes all important. Reaching our greatest potential depends on the choices we make during our journey toward our goal. It depends on  the awareness and sensitivity we demonstrate along the way; our honest intentions, our interactions, and our focus. When we live with our attention in the present moment, when we make choices that reflect the person we want to become, when we focus on aligning our emotional energy with the essence (the feeling or need that it will fulfill) of our desires, we are already taking steps to fulfill our potential. After all, it is the essence (the feeling or need) we believe  our goal will provide that we are truly seeking.

The mouse that navigates a complex maze amazes us, not because it got the cheese, but because of the journey it made to find it. The mouse may only care about the cheese, but we pride ourselves on a higher level of perception that includes valuing personal growth rather than mere acquisition.

Are we just fooling ourselves?

No, we do have unlimited potential beyond our imagination. We just have to envision ourselves moving into it, give our attention to the moment, pay attention to our feelings and inner guidance and act like the person that we image we will be once our goal is achieved.

You may acquire wealth and success if you race through the journey and bolt across the  finish line of your destination. But you will not necessarily reach your highest potential, achieve greatness of character, or acquire wisdom and  meaning in your life. Your goal and desires direct your course to inspire the necessary changes in your beliefs, attitudes and behaviors that will result in  inner transformation. The inner changes are the key to experiencing the freedom, satisfaction and peace that we sought to feel by achieving our goals.

You may reach the cheese by racing through the maze of life. But whether it ripens or rots, depends on who you have become by the choices you have made to get there.

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